以柔克剛是太極拳中最重要的法則之一，說起太極拳，一定要知道太極拳的創始人是武當真人張三豐，據說他在武當山的玉真宮修煉時，從窗戶看見外邊有隻大鵲鳥，與地上盤踞的蛇爭鬥不止，蛇在地上以靜待動，每當看見飛鵲俯身來攻擊時，蛇就蜿蜿輕身，搖首閃避，不被擊中，蛇和大鵲就這樣來來回回，生死爭鬥。
三豐道人由此悟通玄機，根據道教陰陽變化的道理，創立了以靜制動，以柔克剛，後發先治的內家拳暨太極拳原理。太極拳的“行如蛇，動如羽”就是此道理。
在太極拳和現實生活中，以柔克剛的道理是非常有用的，比如，在拳擊中，兩個人都用拳頭擊打，如果兩拳相擊，雙方都會疼痛，太極拳的原理就是，當你拳頭擊過來時，太極拳高手會巧妙地躲過你的拳頭，然後借力使力，一出手就會順勢將你擊倒。
中國道家的鼻祖老子最早在《道德經》中提出人的“欲剛必以柔守之，欲強必以弱保之”，老子還說:“兵強則滅，木強則折，柔弱者生之徒，堅強者死之徒。”就是說：兵太強了，就會樹敵太多，高大強壯的樹木容易引人砍伐，也很容易被大風摧折，而柔弱的小草卻能隨風飄搖，永遠不會折斷。
烈風可以吹斷幾個人才能抱得過來的大樹，卻奈何不了一根細細的小草，鐵錘可以砸碎硬硬的石塊，但捶不壞軟軟的棉被。軟綿綿的太極拳卻能無敵於天下，這就是柔弱勝剛強的道理。
老子嘆息道，這種柔勝剛、弱勝強的現象，天下沒有人不知道，但很少有人能從中得到啟迪，從而真正認識到以柔克剛對人生的意義。相反，人們卻常常自我表現、自以為是、自我誇耀、自稱天下第一，“強梁者不得其死”，這是老子教人處世的警語。
老子首先說出人最高本性應該是：“上善若水”。天下最柔弱的東西是水，水，它沒有硬度、沒有形狀，總是處萬物之下，但是以水來攻克堅強的東西，卻沒有什麼能承受得住。滴水可以穿石，洪水泛濫時高山丘陵為之崩垮，大樹也能被連根拔起。
自然界和人世間共同遵循的道理：弱勝強、柔勝剛。既然這個道理這麼簡單，大家也都能從水這個自然界的實例中，看到這個道理確實是正確的，可為什麼按照這個道理去實踐的人很少呢？
有的人走路的時候，總是趾高氣揚，認為自己是天上地下唯一正確的人；有的人總夢想能夠當上一個大官，能夠去役使別人，讓別人看著自己的臉色行事。有的人總希望自己創辦一個企業，周圍圍著一大群人，能夠獲得人們的尊重和信任。有的人總希望自己能成為名人，能夠在公眾場合頻頻露面，贏得大把的人氣值。有的人總希望自己又帥又靚，回頭率高得不得了‧‧‧現實社會的誘惑太大了，個人的利益難以放棄。個人的欲望太難滿足了。
現在有的年輕人不知什麼叫剛強，什麼叫柔軟，年輕氣盛，現實生活中，常常看到有的人為一點小的摩擦，就大動干戈，雙方為爭一個高低，就動刀動棒，結果肯定是兩敗俱傷、一失足成千古恨。
為什麼這麼多人明明知道柔弱能勝剛強，可為什麼偏偏喜歡去追求剛強呢？是因為有征服感，有求勝的心理，有老子天下第一的心態。
在家庭和生活中，也應該常常運用以柔克剛的道理，人和人之間，夫妻之間，同事之間沒有更多的高低之分。人和人之間更多的是理解和融讓。一方即使沒有道理也要以理服人。不要爭個高低。即使一方是錯的，也要留情面，學會以柔克剛。
人與人之間不可避免產生衝突，可是怎麼處理呢，如果兩人都要固執己見，以強對強，勢必傷害彼此，對自己人際關係及由此而引發的其他影響巨大。
用大吵大鬧固然痛快乾脆，但是對自己的損害大大超過了一時的風光和快意，而迂迴的、間接的、柔弱的方式完全也可以以理服人、達到目的，且不至於留下隱患，為什麼不採用呢？
即使你是個成功人士，就算你有吞吐天地之志，包含宇宙之才，也要懂得斂陽剛於陰柔之中，含雄奇於淡遠之裏。因為，皓皓者易污。在時機沒有到來時應懂得韜光養晦，養精蓄銳。到時機來時就能不鳴則已，一鳴驚人的道理。
請你記住，老子告訴你“不自見，故明；不自是，故彰；不自伐，故有功同；不自矜，故長”的道理。
不自以為能看見，所以看得分明。不自以為是，所以就可以是非分明了。不自伐，就是不自我炫耀，在功勞面前不居功自傲，不居功自傲才更有功德。你不用多說，大家都看得見。不自矜，就是不自高自大，自高自大則不思進取，而大道是無止境的。始終保持謙遜的態度，不搞個人崇拜，並深明功成身退的哲理。
永遠記住：樹大招風，物壯則老。
張良為人柔弱，從不強顏逆主，而是能夠順其自然，所以無事不辦，幫助劉邦安定了大漢的三百年江山，自己卻功成身退，同樣智略超群的韓信，幫助漢王打下了江山，卻因為自己性格剛強高傲，招來無盡的猜忌和誹謗，最後把自己的性命都丟了。在死的一剎那，韓信才明白這個道理，強硬的他來不及抖落一身的硝煙，就匆匆走完了一生，這不能不說是一種遺憾。
鄭板橋也說過一句名言：難得糊塗。聰明難，由聰明轉入糊塗更難；而近代的文學家林語堂也為此作詩一首：愚者有智慧，緩者有雅致，鈍者有機巧，隱者有益處。
放眼一看，原來美國同樣有這樣的俚語：別太精明。（Don’t be too smart）由此可見，最有智慧的人也是最會裝傻的人。
“守柔居弱”，老子在《道德經》中也有很多地方談到，強調要自覺置身於柔弱的地位，處事要低調，辦事要節儉。柔弱勝剛強。“堅強處下，柔弱處上”；還有“哀兵必勝”等等，為什麼老子要如此強調守柔居弱呢？
從現代科學的角度來看，柔與弱能量最小，因而也是最穩定的，最有前途的。應該說，“守柔居弱”正是“相反相成，物極必反”這一規律的重要體現。
老子在其哲學體系中賦予“道”以至高的地位，“道”的地位之所以無窮無盡，是因為它的本性是柔弱。這個觀點運用到做人和管理方面，就是“以柔克剛”。
The softness is the Taijiquan most important rule, Speaking of tai chi, must know that the founder of Taijiquan Wudang real Zhang Sanfeng, Yuzhen Palace in Wudang Mountain practice, he is said to be seen from the windows outside only big magpie bird and ground entrenched battle snake than the snake on the ground to wait for the action, Whenever I see a fly magpie leaned to attack the snake meandering meandering Qingshenjianfei, Yaoshou evade, not to be hit, snakes and big magpie so to and fro, the life and death battle.
Mitutoyo Taoist Wu thus pass the mystery, truth changes according to Taoist yin and yang, the creation of inaction, softness, after the hair inside the home of the first rule of boxing cum tai chi principle. Taijiquan is truth "line like a snake, moving like a feather".
Softness truth In Taiji and real life, is very useful, such as boxing, two people with fists hit, if fists relative strike, the two sides will be pain Taijiquan principle is that when you fist when the strike is over, the tai chi master cleverly escaped your fist, and then leveraging the power shot will homeopathic knocks you down.
The originator of the Chinese Taoist I was first in the "moral" people "For just the will to keep the soft, weak assurance, I added:" soldiers destroy wood stronger then fold the weak and live strong desire must of the believers, strong death of the believers. "means: Bing too, will be too many enemies, tall and strong trees easy introduction felled easily by strong winds Cuizhe weak grass was able to wind hovering is never broken.
Gale can blow trees to hold them off a few people, but it is regrettable that not a thin blade of grass, a hammer to smash the hard rock, but the hammer is not bad soft quilts. Soft tai chi was able to be invincible in the world, this is the strong and the weak wins truth.
I sighed, this soft wins just the phenomenon of weak wins, people do not know the world, but few can achieve enlightenment, which truly recognize the softness of the meaning of life. Instead, people are often self-expression, self-righteous, self-boasting, claiming to be the best in the world, "strong beam shall not his death, I teach people life skills warnings.
I first of all say that the people should be the highest nature: the "charity". The most fragile thing in the world is water, water, it has no hardness, no shape, always at everything under the water to overcome the strong stuff, but nothing could withstand. Dropping wears away a stone mountains and hills whom the collapse flooding, trees can also be uprooted.
The truth of the natural world and the human world to follow: Weak wins, soft wins Gang. Since this truth is so simple, everyone can benefit from examples of the nature of the water and saw the truth is indeed correct, why few people to practice in accordance with this truth?
Some people walk, always cocky, think they are in heaven and only the right people; some dreams can come when a high official, be able to go to the servitude of others, let others watch their tune. Some people always want to start a business, surrounded by a crowd of people around, to get the respect and trust of the people. Some people always hope that he can become a celebrity in public appearances, and has won a lot of popularity value. Some people always want their handsome and pretty, and keep them coming back very, very high ‧ ‧ ‧ social reality of temptation too difficult to give up personal interests. Personal desire too difficult to meet.
Some young people do not know what power, what soft, young, and in real life, often to see some artificially little friction, you go to war, both sides to compete a level of knife stick results confirmed is a lose-lose, without fire.
Why do so many people knew effeminate able to win power, may like to pursue strong and why it? Because conquest, psychological win I world mentality.
Family life should often use the softness truth between man and man, between husband and wife, no more low points colleagues. Between people more understanding and financial allow. Even if the party does not make sense should be reasoning. Do not argue with the level. Even if one side is wrong, but also unsparing surface the Society Yiroukegang.
Inevitable conflict between people, but how to deal with it, if they are to be opinionated, strong strong, is bound to hurt each other, their interpersonal relationships, and other effects which triggered huge.
Of course happy quarreling simply, but damage is much higher than the moment of the scenery and Willful, rather circuitous, indirect, effeminate manner completely reasoning, achieve their goals, and will not stay hidden , why not use it?
Even if you are a successful person, even if you have a throughput of heaven and earth Chi, contains the universe only, but also to understand the convergence among the masculine in the feminine, with magnificent Apprehension Sato. Because, the Haohao easy dirt. Time yet to come should know how to bide our time, recharge your batteries. To the opportunity to be able to not craze, blockbuster truth.
Please remember that I told you "No self-see, so the Ming; naturally, it is Akira; Zifa it is meritorious same; Zijin so long" the truth.
Not thought to be able to see, so to see clearly. Not self-righteous, so non-distinct. Is not Zifa, is not ego, not grown arrogant, not grown arrogant before more merit in the credit front. Needless to say, everyone can see. Not Zijin, is not puffed up, conceited complacency Avenue is endless. Always maintain a humble attitude, not to engage in the cult of personality, and understands that served its purpose and philosophy.
Always remember: the tree attracts the wind, the material strong old.
Zhang Liang man weak, never ie succeeded inverse master, but to be able to go with the flow, so nothing to do, help Liu Bangan given the the Tahan three centuries Jiangshan, but served its purpose, same superior VEDA hanshin, help Hanwang and lay the country, but because of his strong character and pride, to provoke endless suspicion and slander, and finally their own lives are lost. In the moment of death, Han Xin came to understand this truth, tough too late to shake off the smoke of a hurry to finish his life, to say that this is a pity.
Zheng Banqiao famously said: woolly-headed. Smart and hard, confused even more difficult by the clever transferred; the modern writer Lin Yutang also do this for the poem: Fool wise, slow upbeat, blunt organic clever, good hermit.
To look at the original the same slang: Do not be too smart. (Don't be too smart) shows that the most intelligent people are also most likely to play the fool.
Hatching Habitat weak "in the" Dao De Jing ", I also have a lot of places it comes, stressed the need to consciously being in a weak position, doing things to be low-key things to be frugal. Weak Win strong. "Strong at, weak at the"; "underdog win," and so on, why I want so much stress to keep soft Habitat weak?
From the point of view of modern science, soft and weak energy minimum, and thus is the most stable, the most promising. It should be said, hatching Habitat weak "'s quite the contrary, extremes meet" an important manifestation of this law.
I in his philosophical system gives "Road" the endless supreme status, the reason why the status of the "Road", because of its nature is weak. Apply these insights to life and management, is "Yiroukegang.
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